We are told our whole lives when we want something go out and get it. If you want something enough and you put in the work you can accomplish anything you desire. Is it the same for love?

Are we supposed to be out there looking and going on dates and constantly on the prowl or are we supposed to sit back and not worry and when we are ready love will come to us? There doesn’t seem to be a right answer.

I know for me, when I wasn’t technically searching (though lets be real my eyes were always open) I found who I want to be with. But I don’t think it’s that simple.

I have 2 ladies in my life, both around the same age, both wanting a relationship and a family and at the end of the day love, taking completely different paths and yet neither has found it yet. The one lady goes on dates, has a great social life, is on every online dating site there is and has even recently hired a matchmaker. The other, the opposite, goes to work, has a smaller social circle, doesn’t put herself out there, doesn’t flirt, maybe in some people’s opinions not really trying at all. But who is doing it right if neither is any closer to finding love?

Love can’t find you in your bedroom in the book you’re reading but I also don’t think guys like to see a girl that is so desperate to find a guy. There needs to be some sort of balance. Maybe once we find the balance and are happy with us that is when love finds us.

L